Divorce

5 Ways to Have a Healthy and Harmonious Divorce in Manhattan

Divorce is never easy but there are ways to for a healthy and harmonious divorce in Manhattan.  Follow the five steps below for a smoother divorce.  

Make Sure that You’re Clear on Getting Divorced

Coming to terms with the decision of getting a divorce can be a difficult one. It is important to evaluate the reasons why you want a divorce and make sure that you're getting divorced for the right reasons. 

Make sure that you're not making any rash decisions in the heat of the moment. The best way to determine if divorce is the right option for you is to think about it when you have a clear head. Then you can really sit down and determine why you want to get divorced.  If you are still unclear, make a list of pros and cons of staying together vs. getting divorced.  Writing things down will give you the clarity you need to move forward with the right decision.  

Start Gathering Important Documents and Paperwork

Once you determine that divorce is the only option, the next step is to gather all the important documents that you will need before you retain a Manhattan divorce attorney or a divorce mediator. Start gathering your paycheck stubs, tax returns, bank statements, retirement account statements, any type of insurance policies, credit card statements and list and detail of any assets.  

Immediately Change Your Passwords

In a marriage, your spouse may have access to your cell phones, computers, credit card, and financial accounts, etc. and it is important that you either set up separate accounts or change the passwords so that they do not have access to your private information.  You would not want them to be privilege to the conversations you are having with your divorce attorney.    

Give Yourself the Time to Heal Before Trying to Be Friends

Even though you may want to remain friends after divorce, it may not come that easily. Give yourself the time that you need to heal properly and when you're ready you will know when it is the right time to form a friendship with your ex-spouse. 

Have Compassion and Grace 

It is important to remember that you are not the only one going through the stress of divorce and that your spouse is also going through his/her own challenges.  Showing some compassion and grace can go a long way when it comes to having a harmonious divorce. 

Want a Healthy and Harmonious Divorce in Manhattan?

Consult an experienced Manhattan divorce mediator who can guide you.  The sooner you consult an experienced divorce mediator, the smoother your divorce may go.  One of the biggest advantages is that a divorce mediator can help you work out some of the most difficult issues in your divorce in an organized and peaceful manner. Contact Sabra Law Group today to schedule a confidential consultation at (646) 472-7971. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Going Through Divorce in Manhattan Doesn’t Have to Be Hard on Your Children

Going through a divorce can be one of the most challenging life events that you can go through. However, that does not mean that divorce has to be hard on your children, there are ways to make sure that your divorce can be easier on your children.

Communication with Your Children is Key 

Even though your primary instinct may be to protect your children from what is happening, it is also important that you're upfront and honest with them. No matter how old children are they can sense when something is not right between the family. 

One of the most important things you can do is to assure them that whatever is happening is not their fault and it has nothing to do with them and that nothing is going to change. 

Also reassure them that both parents love them very much and even if your family must split up, that your children will have access to both parents.

Be Respectful to Your Spouse (Especially in Front of Your Children)

You may have some bad feelings towards your soon-to-be ex-spouse or you may even despise them, but it is very important to be respectful to your spouse in front of your children. 

Not only is it important to be respectful in front of your children but also when your spouse is not around. What you say about your ex will be critical. Children are very sensitive, and you don't want to upset them or confuse them by bring up concepts and things that might be too much for them to take in. 

If you need someone to vent to, talk to a friend, or a counselor who can help.  Or seek the assistance of a Manhattan divorce mediator or litigator who can help you sort through the difficult issues in your divorce.

Make Time for Your Children 

You may be juggling being a single parent as well as a full-time job but remember it is important to make time for your children, they rely on you for that. Even if you have to take half a day off to make time to spend with your kids (consider doing that).  Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget about what's important.

Consider Getting a Pet for Your Children and Family 

It is common for children to feel the loss of one of their parents when they are living with one parent; and not able to see the other on a consistent basis as they were used to day-to-day. You might want to consider getting them a dog or a cat so that it occupies their time, and it might be just what they need to keep them mentally occupied during this time.

Going Through a Divorce in Manhattan? 

Contact Sabra Law Group today for a confidential consultation at (646) 472-7971 to discuss the best options for your divorce in New York. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4 Ways to Practice Self-Care During and After Divorce in New York

4 Ways to Practice Self-Care During and After Divorce in New YorkGoing through a divorce can be extremely painful and stressful; that is why it is important to practice self-care. Learn how to practice self-care during a divorce in New York with the 4 tips below.

Plan a Getaway

Sometimes it's important to get away to restore your sense of peace and regain your strength. Try to plan a quick weekend road trip or go to a retreat where you can practice meditation and yoga. It can also be beneficial to travel alone if you feel like you just need time alone to think and reflect. Traveling alone can bring peace and is usually less stressful than traveling with friends because you are free to do whatever you want.

Start by determining if your idea of a weekend getaway is doing something more relaxing or something more exciting.  Then based on that you can determine where you should go.  A quick trip or road trip can do wonders for your soul and help you reset. 

Don’t Keep Everything Bottled Up

Going through a divorce can be so emotional so if you feel like you need to talk to someone, get on the phone and call a friend and see if they can provide a listening ear.

Another outlet for not keeping everything bottled up is journaling.  Journaling provides an easy outlet too get your fears and frustrations out you will start to feel less weighed down. 

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help or Support

Don't let your pride get in the way of asking for help if you feel that you can benefit from counseling, consult a therapist or a divorce coach and then go ahead and make an appointment and at least try it out. Reach out to your friends and family for support and let them know that you may need their support from time to time. It is also important to find a babysitter or someone who can take care of the kids so you can get a break because sometimes you just need to be alone to unwind and de-stress during a time when it feels like your world is falling apart.

Lead a Healthy Lifestyle

Leading a healthy lifestyle will help you feel better emotionally and physically. It is important to focus on eating a healthy diet, getting some exercise, and really taking care of your entire mind and body.

Try having a weekly routine where you either go to the gym, practice yoga or take an exercise class.  Even going for a daily walk can make such a big difference. It is also important to be cognizant of what type of diet you are eating. A healthy diet will give you more energy, whereas an unhealthy diet will make you feel exhausted and sluggish, and stressed out.

If you are considering divorce or need assistance with child custody and support, contact Sabra Law Group today for a confidential consultation at (646) 472-7971. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Handle Summer Vacations as a Divorced Parent in Manhattan

Divorced Parent in ManhattanNow that a lot of people have been fully vaccinated, and things are starting to open up in New York, people are starting to travel again and plan summer vacations. However, planning a summer vacation for a divorced parent can be quite challenging. It requires you to communicate with your ex-spouse and it requires cooperation on both sides to make the vacation happen. The good news is that you can learn how to handle summer vacations as a divorced parent in Manhattan. 

Follow the Tips Below to Plan and Manage your Summer Vacations as a Divorced Parent:

1) Plan Ahead: planning ahead of time is the best way to make sure that your summer vacation goes smoothly with your children. Planning ahead also allows you to work out issues with your ex-spouse in case you have disagreements about schedules and vacation locations. 

2) Communicate Effectively: communication is key to co-parenting successfully. It is also important to communicate effectively when it comes to discussing summer vacations, holidays, and visitation dates regarding your children. 

3) Keep Special Events and Holidays in Mind: don't forget about holidays like Father's Day or Mother’s Day, as you probably won't want to ask for taking your son or daughter on a trip during an important holiday that would be insensitive to the other parent.  Also remember birthdays, as your ex-spouse may want to spend their birthday with their children, as it would be a reasonable request on their part.  By being more accommodating to special events and holidays, you can foster a better co-parenting relationship with your ex.  

4) Plan Day Activities During the Summer that are Easier to Organize:  you can organize a beach day, a picnic, a trip to the zoo or even a play date in the park with the puppies.  Even a staycation in a hotel in your local area would be a fun and easy vacation idea with your children. 

5)  Allow Your Children to Spend Time with their Friends During the Summer: it is important for your children to have friends to play with, so make sure that you're not taking them away for the entire summer where they don't have access to any friends.  

6)  Be Open-Minded to Your Ex-Spouse’s Suggestions When It Comes to Planning a Trip: be willing to take feedback from your ex-spouse as the main goal is the best interest of your children (which is probably what they're thinking of as well when they're making suggestions). You don't necessarily have to agree with them but if you respect what they have to say they will probably have the same respect for you and that will make things a lot easier when it comes to co-parenting. 

6) Allow Your Children to be Part of the Vacation Planning Process: this is especially important if your children are teenagers because teenagers are very opinionated about what they want to do and don't want to do. If you want to have a good time with your children make sure that you ask them what they would like to do and make them feel like they are a part of the vacation planning process.  

Need Assistance with Co-Parenting in Manhattan? 

If you need help mediating co-parenting disputes, contact Sabra Law Group today for a consultation at (646) 472-7971.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Tips for Dating After a Divorce in Manhattan

 

Dating after a divorce in ManhattanIf you recently got divorced, on one hand, you might be relieved and excited to start a new chapter of your life but on the other hand, you might also be emotionally and financially drained from the divorce.  When you do feel ready to get back into the dating scene it's important to know how to date after a divorce in Manhattan. Below are 5 tips for dating after a divorce.

Set Reasonable Expectations

Don't expect to meet the love of your life on the first date; instead, take it as an opportunity to meet someone new and perhaps make some new friends.  It's also a good idea to be in control of the date. Pick a place that you're comfortable with that's close to your home so that you feel that you're in a safe environment where you can feel relaxed and comfortable. 

If your standards are high, it might also be helpful to lower your standards a bit so you don’t eliminate any options that could be a good match for you even before even meeting them.

Don’t Get Discouraged

Just because you have a few bad dates do not give up on dating entirely. Sometimes it can take a couple of dates before you meet someone that you click with and that has the same values as you. 

Don't rush into dating unless you feel like you're ready. There are no timelines on when you should start dating after a divorce. Just because your other friends were dating immediately after a divorce does not mean that you should. When you do things on your own timeline you will be more comfortable with the entire process and the outcome will be more favorable. 

Do What Makes You Happy

One of the most important things after getting out of a marriage is self-care. Do what makes you happy.  Do the things you've never had the opportunity to go do. Travel the world. Or consider being a “tourist” in your own hometown or city.  You never know who you might meet along the way during your adventures.

Don’t Rush into Intimacy 

Don't rush into getting intimate with someone just to get over your ex because, in the end, you're only going to feel miserable. Give yourself the permission to explore what you want in a partner and what you don't want.  Make sure that who you decide to get intimate with has the characteristics that you would want in a future partner.  

Even if Someone is Not Your Ideal Match You Can Still Enjoy Their Company

Don't be so quick to end a date abruptly if your date is not your type. Give them the opportunity and get to know them you never know what can come out of that. They might end up being your best friend, or even set up with one of their friends that may be your ideal match. 

Need Assistance with Divorce, Child Custody, or Child Support? 

If you are currently going through a divorce or going through post-divorce issues and need legal assistance, contact Sabra Law Group today for a confidential consultation at (646) 472-7971.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Preparing for the Financial Implications of Divorce in New York 

Financial Implications of Divorce in New YorkIf you are getting divorced in New York and do not have a prenuptial agreement it is important to prepare for the financial implications of divorce in New York.  It is important to know that your assets will be divided by the laws of New York State.

The state will consider all the things that you acquired during your marriage as marital assets. Marital assets can include anything from your income, savings, investments, cars, boats, property, homes, loans, investments, and stocks any anything else that was created or accumulated during the marriage. The court will usually divide marital assets equitably, which may or may not mean a 50/50 split, upon examination of a list of factors. 

When considering which assets will be divided in a divorce it is also important to remember that liabilities will also be divided. It’s important to consider mortgages, joint credit cards, business or personal loans, or anything else that you acquired debt for during the marriage. It is important to consult with your New York divorce attorney about liabilities as well as assets. 

Another important financial implication of divorce is child support. It is important to be familiar with the state’s guidelines when child support is calculated. The state will take into consideration your monthly income, the child custody agreement, and the number of children that qualify for child support. 

Another financial aspect of divorce that comes up frequently is alimony, referred to today as maintenance or spousal support.  In New York, we have statutory formulas that are applied to determine support and your attorney can help you apply them in your situation.

It is also important to be cognizant of when alimony may end and how you can plan to be prepared financially. Start thinking about what steps you can take to start producing income for you and your family.

It’s also important to consider the expenses that come with divorce – in addition to the costs of retaining an attorney, you may need to hire a financial advisor or an appraiser to determine the value of your properties and/or assets or help you with dividing them between you and your spouse. 

When your divorce is resolved,  it is important to remember to close any joint bank accounts and open separate bank accounts. Furthermore, it is important to change the names and beneficiaries on any properties, stocks, bank accounts, or life insurance
Considering Divorce in New York? Prepare for the Financial Implications of Divorce! 

The more prepared you are for divorce the easier it will be to navigate the financial implications of divorce. If you’re considering divorce in New York contact Sabra Law Group today for a confidential consultation at (646) 472-7971. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Factors That May Lead to Divorce in Manhattan 

filing for divorceWhile there is really no way to predict if a marriage will sustain for the long term or not, there are divorce predictors to watch out for.  

Money and Financial Issues

Money can always cause problems in a marriage.  Sometimes, it is the lack of money and the stress of bills piling up that causes stress on a marriage.  Other times, it may be that one spouse has too much money, but the other spouse spends it way too frivolously.  The key to resolving money issues in a marriage is to be able to communicate effectively and calmly. 

Different Values and Belief Systems

You have heard the saying that opposites attract, however, when it comes to values and belief systems, it can be challenging to navigate a marriage if your beliefs are so far apart.  Sometimes, one spouse’s values and belief systems shift and change over time.  This can cause a couple to drift apart or start having more arguments.  Raising children with opposing beliefs can become a tug-of-war.  

Getting Married Too Young 

When you get married in your teens or even early twenties, it is common to grow as a person and as you grow, your interests may change, your belief systems may change, and your values may change.  These changes can cause married couples to drift apart, and it can also put a strain on the relationship.  While you may have seen eye to eye back when you got married, fast forward 10 years later, and a lot of can change.  When you get married young, you haven’t really had the opportunity to experience the world on your own and discover yourself.  This can lead to one or both spouses wanting to find their passions and re-discover new interests. 

Holding Resentments and Grudges

It is natural for married couples to fight from time to time or have disagreements, but what really matters is how couples recover from their quarrels.  If one spouse apologizes but the other spouse fosters resentment and holds a grudge, this can put a huge strain on a marriage. If you accept an apology from your spouse, you must also genuinely learn to let go of any resentments.  

Lack of Intimacy

If you and your spouse are spending less and less time together in the bedroom and can’t remember the last time you had a date night, your marriage could be heading towards major problems.  Lack of intimacy in a marriage can also cause infidelity in a marriage.  If you see your love life slipping, it may be time get a babysitter and plan some date nights or even a vacation with your spouse. 

Considering Divorce in Manhattan? 

Contact Sabra Law Group today at (646) 472-7971 for a confidential consultation if you are considering getting divorced in New York.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Tips for Dating After Divorce in Manhattan 

dating after divorce in ManhattanAre you towards the tail end of your divorce or recently divorced?  Then maybe you have started thinking about getting back into the dating scene.  Before you rush into a new relationship, it is important to consider the best way to start dating again. 

Take the Proper Time to Heal 

The first thing to consider is to make sure that you heal before jumping into a new relationship or dating scene.  A divorce may leave you with deep psychological wounds that can unveil when you are pursuing a new relationship.  Work on self-care and healing and when you feel like you are in a better headspace mentally; then the timing may be right to consider dating again. 

Learn from Your Past Marriage and Relationships

Even bad relationships are a good learning experience.  Take the time to evaluate your marriage and analyze what went wrong.  Could you have identified the warning signs earlier?  Do you have a habit of falling into the same relationship patterns?  It is imperative to learn from the past, so you don’t repeat the same mistakes. 

Be Willing to Seek Professional Help

If you are apprehensive or scared of dating because you have gone through a rough divorce, do not be afraid to get professional help.  If your divorce has taken a psychological toll on your health, it may be beneficial to speak to a therapist, counselor or relationship coach who can help you move forward.  Having a professional to talk to may also help you understand your emotions so you can determine why you may have been experiencing them, identify your triggers and manage them when they arise.  This will make you a better partner.  

Spend Some Time Alone Before Jumping into Dating     

When you have been in a marriage for so many years and are used to having someone around, it is important to rediscover yourself.  Before you start dating, take a moment to rediscover who you are and what makes you happy.  Sometimes, people lose their own identity when they are in a marriage because they spend so much time trying to please their spouse that they forgot to focus on themselves.  After your divorce, start by taking a solo trip to a new destination that you have always wanted to visit but never had the opportunity.  Furthermore, take the time to discover new hobbies and try new things. 

Take Things Slow

Once you do start dating, remember to take things slow.  It would be pointless to go from one bad relationship to the next. Really take the time to get to know your future partner and determine if their values, lifestyle, and beliefs align with yours.  Also be aware of any red flags and do not ignore red flags when you first see them; the situation will only get worst once you are in a committed relationship.  

If you are considering divorce in Manhattan and need assistance, contact Sabra Law Group today at (646) 472-7971.  
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Best Practices for a COVID Divorce in New York 

divorce during pandemicThere is never a good time for a divorce but trying to divorce in the middle of a worldwide pandemic can present a variety of other challenges to this already difficult procedure. Indeed, a "COVID Divorce," as it has become known, creates numerous special considerations. If you need to get a divorce during this tumultuous time period, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.

First, courts are delayed. Thanks to the months where courts could not be in session, there is a huge backlog. If you actually need to appear before a judge, this may mean that your divorce will take longer than usual to finalize as the court’s calendars are quite long and backlogged. So getting time before a judge may take longer. This delay may put additional pressure on you to work out some sort of resolution through mediation and ensure that any legal work necessary can occur via teleconference, and not in an actual courtroom.

There is also no doubt that COVID will have an impact on the final arrangements of your divorce. It may alter child custody, moving dates, and more. Keep in mind that there will also be a variety of ancillary impacts in areas that you may not have thought about. For example, if you are selling your home, depending upon where it is located you may be able to sell it faster and at a higher price if people are fleeing other areas to your area where your house it.  However, if you are in an area where people are fleeing from given the impact that COVID has had on the housing market, you may find yourself reducing the price to get it sold. Another consideration is where and whether you will be able to purchase a new home or find a place to rent at an affordable price.  In New York, there are areas where prices are still quite competitive while there are areas that are already beginning to see a recovery in its real estate market and the prices are rebounding. 

Additionally, keep in mind that COVID is believed to be an instigator for divorces, as people are forced to spend more time together in stressful situations. This will likely also add to the legal backlog facing many courtrooms and could further delay your ability to get divorced as quickly as possible. It also may mean that you have to look harder to find an attorney who is experienced and available to assist when you need it, as many of them are busier than ever. This, of course, can create real challenges for you. 

If you need a divorce, you need to make sure you have an experienced New Your Divorce Attorney in the business working to protect you. The Sabra Law Group is experienced at handling divorce and divorce mediation – even if it’s a COVID divorce. Visit our website or call us today at 646-472-7971 for a confidential consultation.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Handle Post-Divorce Child Custody Conflicts During the Pandemic

Post-Divorce Child CustodyThe COVID-19 pandemic has changed virtually every aspect of life. It should come as no surprise, then, that those changes have extended to post-divorce child custody. While the agreements made by former spouses during the divorce process were almost certainly made with the best interests of the child in mind, the truth is that the pandemic has no respect for such agreements. As such, there are a few basic steps that should be taken to ensure a safe and effective custody arrangement during these trying times.

While difficult, the first thing to do is to be realistic about how the pandemic is going to impact your custody arrangements. A parent being quarantined may cause one party to lose his or her visitation time, so an alternate arrangement should be found if possible. Likewise, changes in the availability of travel or childcare will have to be looked at to determine how the child's routine will be changed. These changes will be quick and often difficult, but it will be up to the parents to ensure that they are navigated as smoothly as possible.

If communication between the parents is possible. it is often a good idea to make a parenting plan for COVID-19. This will include both the steps that both parents will take to keep the children safe as well as basic steps that can be taken when unusual circumstances occur. Referring to this agreement can help the parents to better adapt without having to hash out the argument every time the situation changes.

With this said, there will be times when disagreements occur, and steps may need to be taken in order to keep the children safe. While in-person mediation is unlikely to occur in many areas, mediation through teleconferencing can be an effective way to allow both parents to have their say while still allowing a third party to mediate the situation. In those situations when a compromise is impossible, it may be necessary to go to court in order to have the custody arrangement temporarily changed in order to better navigate the new reality of COVID-19.

There is no easy way to co-parent during COVID-19 but there are steps that you can take to simplify the process. Try to be realistic about the situation and make whatever compromises you can, but make sure that you're willing to work to ensure that your child is kept as safe as possible. If you are dealing with a post-divorce child custody issue, make sure to contact the Sabra Law Group at 646-472-7971 to get the help you need.