How to Deal With Infidelity in a Marriage in New York

Dealing with infidelity in a marriage in New York is a very difficult thing to go through.  Infidelity can definitely put a strain on a marriage.  While some couples may go to therapy and be able to get past it, others are not so fortunate. In fact, according to a statistic on this website, “57% of marriages that experience infidelity end up in divorce.” Below, let’s explore some ways you can get through this difficult time.

Allow Yourself to Feel the Pain

 

Ignoring and bottling up your emotions will only exemplify the problem.  If your spouse has cheated on you, it is important to acknowledge your emotions and go through the hurt, anger, and/or sadness.  It is natural to feel these emotions and by giving yourself the grace to feel these emotions; it may help you in the healing process.

 

Get the Support of Family and Friends

 

You don’t have to go through this alone.  Reach out to a trusted friend or family member and tell them what happened and how you are feeling.  Even if all they do is lend a listening ear, it may be healthy to get it out in the open.  And, you never know if they went through a particular experience, they may be able to provide some useful advice.  Since you are in the situation, it may be difficult to have perspective but if they have gone through it, they may be able to shed some light on the situation that you may not be able to see.

 

Don’t Shut Your Spouse Out

 

If you are willing to fight for your marriage, it will be important to leave the lines of communication with your spouse open.  It may also be helpful to discuss if you are both willing to salvage the marriage or not.  If you are both willing to try, it may help to go to couples therapy and work through the challenges that your marriage is facing. 

 

Give it Some Time

 

Don’t make any harsh or rash decisions.  You must make any big decision with a clear head and immediately filing for divorce may be making an emotional decision.  When it comes to ending a marriage, it is important to also think about it rationally.

 

Consult a New York Divorce Mediation Lawyer

 

If you are unclear on what to do or have decided that you want out of your marriage, it may make sense to discuss your options with a New York family and divorce mediation lawyer who can help educate you on your options.  Call Sabra Law Group at (646) 472-7971 for the legal guidance you need.