What You Need to Know About Divorcing a Narcissist in New York

Perhaps the reason for you filing for divorce is that you realized you were married to a narcissist.  Narcissistic people and personalities are some of the most difficult people to deal with.  And, unfortunately, just because you are getting divorced, the narcissist will not stop doing what they do. Let’s take it one step further…you both have children together.  Having children together means that you will still need to communicate with your spouse or at least make other arrangements for communication.  It is imperative to realize that a narcissist will still try to manipulate you or even your children.   Let’s explore what you need to know about divorcing a narcissist in New York.

Divorcing a narcissist in New York

What Are Some Common Behaviors of Narcissists


Narcissists hate taking accountability for their actions and many times they will intentionally provoke you to get a reaction out of you.  This is where you have to be able to recognize what they are doing and not give them the reaction that they are looking for.  Once they realize that you are no longer bothered or impacted by them, they will begin to lose their power over you. 


Narcissists Will Never Realize What They Did Wrong…They Will Only Blame You for Your Reaction to Their Actions


It is important to know that no matter what you try to do, it will be very difficult to win with them.  So, instead of trying to win the fight, learn how to identify and predict their behavior and control your responses.  Especially when there are children involved, it is key to learn how set boundaries and document all of their bad behavior.  If the court finds that they may present a danger to the children or sacrifice the best interest of the children, the court may limit the amount of time they get with their children.


Don’t Blame Yourself and Fall For Their Storyline



Don’t fall for their bait, narcissists have a nature to reel you in like they were out fishing, so remember to not fall for their bait.  The only way to get ahead is to truly understand that they will never change their behavior, therefore, you must realize how to manage the situation and maintain being calm, no matter what.


Determine What Triggers You and Neutralize Those Triggers


Self-awareness is key when it comes to dealing with a narcissistic ex.  Be aware of the behaviors your ex exhibits that pushes your buttons and learn to program yourself to not be impacted every time your button is pushed.  The more they get a reaction out of you, the more satisfaction they will get that their plan is working.  On the contrary, if you seem unbothered, they may have to find another victim; one that falls into their trap.


Need Help Divorcing a Narcissistic Spouse in New York?


Sabra Law Group can help you litigate your divorce and handle difficult divorce matters by communicating on your behalf.  Call Sabra Law Group today to schedule a confidential appointment to discuss your divorce at (646) 472-7971.


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