Why Getting Divorced is Better Than Being in a Bad Marriage

Most people who come to the realization that they are unhappily married have agonized over whether or not getting divorced is the right option.

It's a good idea to look for alternatives to divorce, like going to couples counseling or communication classes, before making a decision. Even then, some people aren't convinced. They'd rather stick with the devil they know and whatever measure of security they have than brave the unknown.

However, there are reasons why getting a divorce makes much more sense than staying in an unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage.

Consider how getting divorced might free up your energy and focus, for happier things. How much time do you spend trying to salvage your relationship or fuming over what your spouse just said or did…again? Copious amounts of thought and energy go into trying to maintain a relationship, and those amounts are doubled when you don't feel like your partner is meeting you halfway.

When you're out of that relationship, you can pour your time and attention into your kids, career, hobbies, goals and a host of other relationships. In fact, your marriage might be stifling your growth as well as your partner's. It's even worth considering that trying to stay in your marriage is preventing you from meeting the partner that you deserve.

In most cases, it is better for children if their parents’ divorce rather than struggle to stay married. While having divorced parents isn't ideal, it is less stressful than growing up in a household that is tainted by constant hostility and negativity. Divorce may give you an opportunity to forge a healthier, more positive relationship with your former spouse, which means that you're modeling a good relationship for your kids.

Keep in mind that a divorce provides you with a new lease on life. Perhaps you'll finally go back to school or have more time to devote to your career. You'll even enjoy more "me" time that allows you to go to the spa, play more golf, take long soaks in the tub or spend more quality time with friends and family.

Remember that while divorce is initially painful, sometimes devastatingly so, many people are able to refocus their life and energy, which means that they emerge from the process stronger than before.

If you'd like to learn more about just how healthy getting divorced can be, particularly if you can do it quickly and relatively amicably, then contact the Sabra Law Group today at (646) 472-7971 or click here to schedule your complimentary Discovery Session.