The Pro’s and Con’s of Moving in Together Before Marriage
There are so many different views on moving in together before marriage. Some people believe it’s not a good idea to live together before marriage, whereas; others are not opposed to it. Making a decision to move in together before marriage is just as big of a decision as making the commitment to your partner.
Let’s Consider Some of the Benefits of Moving in Together Before Marriage
- The shared expense for rent or perhaps no rent depending on the situation: when you’re living separately, both of you are paying rent or a mortgage. From a financial perspective, living together makes sense.
- The Good, the bad, and the ugly: when you live with someone you will really see them for who they really are. With that comes the good, the bad, and the ugly. So you really get to see who they really are before deciding to tie the know, and it may actually save you from getting a divorce in the future by getting out before it’s too late.
- You will learn if you can tolerate each other 24/7: dating is very different from living together. You can date someone yet not know the real person. When you’re living with someone, it is difficult to hide everything.
- You can have more fun together doing everyday things such as cooking together, gardening or playing board games.
There Are Also Some Disadvantages of Living Together
- If they are getting everything without putting a ring on it, they may never put a ring on it. Even if you’re already engaged prior to living together, the marriage may take longer to happen.
- Domestic chores take the fun out of living together.
- If finances are not discussed in advance, living together can cause stress and arguments over finances. On the other hand, living together may force the issue, and you can see if the two of you can work out your differences.
- It may lessen the excitement of getting married. The only difference in your relationship when you get married will be the rings and the marriage license.
There are certainly both advantages and disadvantages of living together. The most important thing to consider is to do what feels right for you. There is no right or wrong answer. If you have questions regarding prenuptial agreements, or how to discuss finances (and other challenging topics) with your future spouse, contact Sabra Law Group today at (646) 472-7971.