How to Have Win-Win Mediation for Your Divorce

Divorce is never easy. It's an emotionally draining process that is painful for everyone involved. This is especially true in cases where couples decide to litigate the outcome. 

Too often, separating spouses believe that the courtroom is the only place to resolve complicated divorce issues like child support, visitation and the division of the marital assets. The reality is that mediation frequently is the far better alternative. 

Mediation is much less expensive than going to court will ever be. Plus, it's an extraordinarily private process that doesn't involve much in the way of public court filings. Mediation also is a more amicable and mature way to resolve conflicts. 

When the issues between a divorcing couple can be resolved via mediation, it is a win-win for the whole family. Of course, both of the former partners must be willing to come to the table and to keep their minds open. This isn't always easy, but a win-win mediation is possible when both enter the process with good intentions. 

Much of mediation is about negotiation and compromise. Accordingly, it is vital that both parties not be overly focused on getting their way. A better approach and one that is more likely to result in a win-win mediation is to consider what is in the best interests of the family. 

When children are involved, they frequently are the deciding factor in this determination. Throughout the process, the main concern of the parents is rightfully placed on the health and well-being of the children. When parents remember that less strife and more compassion are likely to favorably affect their children and provide them with a strong model for how to lead a healthy and well-adjusted life, then they are more likely to enter mediation with the best of intentions. 

Still, this doesn't mean that divorce mediation is always easy. Emotions sometimes run high, and occasionally the participants lose sight of the greater good. At these moments, it's wise to take a step back and a deep breath. Refocus your energy on creating a positive outcome that is good for everyone, rather than just for yourself. 

Call the Sabra Law Group at (646) 472-7971 to learn more about how a win-win mediation is possible in even the most complex of divorce cases. With a skilled attorney and a compassionate mediator, it is possible for the family to heal and move forward in a positive manner.