How to De-Stress During the Holidays When Facing Divorce

Even if you are facing divorce during the holidays, there are many ways to make your holidays less stressful.  We all know that the holidays are such a hectic time; family coming into town, children out of school, holiday shopping, parties, and many other holiday-related festivities.  Master how to de-stress during the holidays when facing divorce and have a wonderful holiday season. 

 

Learn How to Successfully Navigate the Holiday Season While Staying Cool, Calm and Collected by Following the 5 Tips Below:

 

1. Be mindful on what you already have on your plate or your “to do” list:  Try not to take on more than you can handle.  This is essential not just during the holidays but in any life scenario.  It is important to know your limits and only say “yes” to what you can comfortably handle.  Realize that it is okay to say “no” sometimes.  The more you practice saying “no” the more comfortable you will become with saying “no”. 
2. Try a form of self-care:  Creating space for yourself while reading a book, or going for a walk, trying aromatherapy by visiting your favorite spa for a massage and/or aromatherapy treatment or create your own spa at home.  Creating your own spa at home is as simple as going to Bath and Body Works and investing in one of their aromatherapy collection oils, creams, lotions, or bubble bath.   Get some scented candles and a glass of your favorite wine or beverage and turn on your favorite music.  Spend at least one hour treating yourself to some self-care once a week and you will feel rejuvenated.
3. Make time for fun:  Plan a fun outing with your favorite friends; a wine dinner, comedy show, bowling, ice skating or even dancing.  Spending time with friends that make you laugh and smile will have a therapeutic effect on your well-being. 
4. Don’t take things personally:  Letting little things get to you will bring your energy down. Traffic may be bad, your spouse may be cranky, your children may be testing your patience; however, how you react to it will determine your stress level.  Train yourself to become more easygoing and not let every little thing get to you.  In other words, choose your battles carefully…as not everything is worth getting upset about. 
5. Set a plan in advance for when and how to talk about divorce:  Talk with your spouse now, if you can, or reach an agreement to perhaps put off the details of divorce until after the holidays. It can be tough to find time to make big decisions in your divorce when children are involved.  Remember, if you have children and they will be home from school focus on what you can do to make the transition easier for them during the holidays.   Focusing on your children during the holidays and having a plan lined up for when and how you will get through the difficult divorce conversations post-holiday season will help ease your stress. 

 

If you are dealing with divorce during the holidays, contact Sabra Law Group for a consultation at (646) 472-7971.  Sabra can help you put together an action plan so you can stress less and focus on your children.