How to Bring Up the Delicate Topic of a Prenup to Your Fiancée

According to a survey conducted by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, more couples than ever before are signing a prenup before they say, "I do."

Despite this prevalence, prenuptial agreements remain a touchy subject. Some people just feel that they are unromantic while others believe that the suggestion of such an agreement is an admission of a lack of faith in the union. However, prenups may be entered into for numerous reasons, and they can be a loving way to plan your financial future. Here are some tips for bringing up this topic with your fiancée.

Difficult as it may be, it's best to mention that you are interested in prenuptial agreements as early as possible. Attorneys suggest broaching the topic in a casual way even before the engagement. This will help you to gauge your partner's initial reaction, which may suggest how carefully you will need to proceed.

Similarly, it's helpful to realize that an in-depth conversation about a prenup with your fiancée is likely to be awkward. The best way to deal with this is by being open and honest about your reasons for wanting a prenuptial agreement. For instance, you might mention the history of painful divorces in your family.

You further might emphasize that you expect your marriage to end with one of your deaths at the end of a long and happy life. However, if things don't turn out that way, you want to be able to go your separate ways with as much love and as little rancor as possible. A prenuptial agreement lets the two of you decide complex financial questions long before they ever arise, and that can make for a swifter, less painful divorce.

Couples frequently find success when they make drafting the prenuptial agreement a joint project. This ensures that both of their voices are heard and that they have equal input with regard to the stipulations. Both spouses can accordingly understand that their interests are protected in case the marriage doesn't go as planned. Many couples decide to work with a mediator or an attorney to iron out the specifics so that both partners feel greater peace of mind.

Contact Sabra Law Group at (646) 472-7971 to schedule your complimentary discovery session to talk about any of your questions about entering into a prenup with your fiancée. A well-crafted agreement is a loving way to demonstrate that you care about your partner's future, whatever it holds.