How to Bring Up a Prenup When Getting Engaged During the Holidays

Many people decide that the holiday season is the ideal time to get engaged.  The particular holiday doesn’t really matter, it could be on Hanukah, Christmas, or New Year’s Eve.  What matters is how do you bring up the sensitive topic of a “Prenuptial Agreement” during the holiday season. 

 

It is to be expected that people want the holiday season to be full of joy and as stress-free as possible.  This is why the thought of bringing up a Prenup can definitely cause some anxiety. 

 

Follow the Five Steps Below to Bring Up a Prenup When Getting Engaged During the Holiday Season:

 

1. Make a list: write down all the reasons why it makes sense to get a Prenup and why it would be beneficial to both of you.  Furthermore, on a separate piece of paper write down what objections you anticipate your fiancée may have. 
2. Provide reassurance:  that a Prenup is not necessarily a bad thing and that it is meant to protect the financial future of both spouses.
3. Encourage open communication:  open communication means that you encourage your partner to be honest about their feelings and that you genuinely listen to them (without judgment). 
4. Timing is key:  It is advisable not to bring up the Prenup conversation on an actual holiday or when either of you are stressed about other matters or have had a rough day at work.  And when you do talk about it, it is a good idea to discuss this topic at a neutral place – like a coffee shop or sitting on a bench at the park, but not your home, favorite restaurant or other “special” place that has meaning for the two of you.
5. Talking about a prenuptial agreement is always better sooner rather than later.  For instance, if you haven’t talked about it while you were dating, then talking about it now is a good time.  Explore conversations that would be “hypothetical” in nature but allow both of you to openly discuss what would happen if you ever were to split up.  Who would get the house, who would get the family pet?  Who would get the investment properties?  This process allows the both of you to start thinking about the importance of a Prenup and hopefully come to terms with the idea of developing a Prenup to protect each other’s financial well-being in the event of a future breakup. 

 

If you have questions about a Prenup agreement in New York or any other family law related matters, contact Sabra Divorce Law today to schedule a consultation at (646) 472-7971.