Why Gray Divorce Is Becoming More Common
Many couples stay together for the sake of the kids and the financial ramifications that come with sending their kids to college. Even if a couple is unhappy in their marriage, they are more likely to stay together because it is more “financially appealing” for the time being. The thought of losing assets, having to live on one income, and potentially not being able to put the children through college can force couples to stay together.
When the kids grow up and leave the house or graduate from college, many couples find that they have nothing left to stay together for because they no longer have anything in common.
When older adults find themselves in this situation, they are becoming part of a trend called “gray divorce.”
Gray divorce can be emotionally taxing, and it can take a toll on both mental and physical well-being. The struggles for men vs. women are slightly different. For men, they end up feeling lonely and isolated as men generally do not have as many close friends as women do.
Women may struggle financially as they spend many years raising the kids and were homemakers vs. career women. So, now when they do need to find a job, they may find that they may make less money or have to go into lower-paying industries.
How to Bounce Back from a Gray Divorce
Friends are going to be an incremental part of your healing process. It is important to reach out to friends and make plans to get together for dinner or simply spend some quality time together talking.
Because gray divorce comes with emotional tolls; your sleep may be compromised. Focus on getting 6-8 hours of quality sleep. If you are having difficulty sleeping at night, try listening to soothing music, taking a relaxing bath, and meditation. Some mediation apps you can easily download on your phone or iPad are Headspace and Calm. If you are still having difficulty sleeping after trying all these tactics, it may be time to talk to your primary care physician to see what they recommend.
Make sure you practice self-care. Self-care means being easy on yourself and not blaming yourself for the marriage not working out. It also means making time for yourself to do the things that make you happy and help you feel peaceful. Divorce is difficult on anyone, but it can be extra taxing in older adults. Take time to focus on healing and finding your true self.
If you are considering a “gray divorce”, contact the Sabra Law Group today for a confidential consultation at (646) 472-7971.