Reasons to Consider a Divorce Mediator

Divorce, unfortunately, never comes during calm, quiet moments in our lives.  Divorce is almost always the end result of emotionally turbulent and stressful times – and unfortunately usually spells the continuation of that stress and turbulence.  Traditionally, a litigated divorce can take much longer than most people expect, is very emotionally damaging (especially for children), and can become very expensive.

The alternative is to hire a divorce mediator in New York to settle your divorce outside of the courtroom.  There are many very strong reasons to at least attempt a divorce mediation.

You Can Still Head to Court

Working with a divorce mediator in New York does not mean you have to give up your right to sue for divorce.  If the mediation process fails to bring about an agreement, you can still bring your issues to court – and anything discussed in the mediation sessions is considered private and thus cannot be used in the courtroom.

Low-Impact

A qualified, experienced divorce mediator in New York can help you resolve your differences and work out an acceptable separation agreement without the high-stress of the courtroom.  Under calm conditions of mutual respect, the mediator will hold the space for the conversation and ensure a positive, supportive environment for both parties.  The lack of aggression and the cooperative mood is much easier on children, as well, because the parents will likely not take out their frustration on the children.

Lower Costs

Mediation is almost always less expensive than a litigated divorce, and often results in support and custody agreements that are more likely to be adhered to by both parties as they are mutually negotiated instead of imposed by a well-meaning but often disinterested judge.  The lower costs and increased control of mediation means that any couple seeking a divorce has little reason not to at least try to achieve their separation through mediation instead of the court.

Mediation is not always the right course for pursuing a divorce, but when approached sensibly can be less trouble, less expense, and less stress than a litigated divorce. When the decision is made to end a marriage, mediation should always be part of the conversation.