New York Mediation Lawyer Discusses How to Stay Friends with Your Ex After Divorce

Now that the divorce is close to final, it may be time to start thinking about what type of relationship you want to maintain with your ex.   For some people, being friends may never be an option due to betrayal, infidelity or spousal abuse, but for others it may be a viable option. 

Things that once bothered you about your ex are no longer an issue since you are no longer living together.  Once the anger has settled, a new type of friendship can be born.  It is easier to build a respectable friendship without the demands of marriage.  One of the huge advantages of having a friendship after divorce is that it allows your children to be raised in a happy and healthy environment. 

For some spouses, they are comfortable with being friends right after the divorce, whereas; for others, it may take some time to fully heal and be comfortable with the idea of maintaining a friendship.    Friendship after divorce cannot be forced, it must be formed naturally for both spouses to feel comfortable.

Follow These 5 Tips So You Can Move Toward a Friendship After Divorce:

1. Be Flexible: be willing to remain open-minded and compromise a little, especially when it comes to sharing custody of the children
2. Take Time to Heal: divorce is never easy and it usually requires a healing process.  Once you have gone through the healing process, it may give you a new perspective.
3. Remember the Good: remember what you liked about your spouse, if these traits or characteristics are important in a friendship, you may be able to build a new friendship based on the good traits in your ex.
4. Learn to Forgive: by learning to forgive, it allows you to move on from the past and move forward with your life
5. Remember What is Best for the Children: at the end of the day, your children should be the priority.  Children can sense tension around the parents and are sensitive to their surroundings. Wouldn’t it be better for the children if you were able to maintain a friendship with your spouse?  Imagine how happy it would make your child to be able to celebrate his/her birthday with both parents.

New York Mediation Lawyer Can Help Guide You So You Can Remain Friends with Your Ex

Mediation can help you sort through the difficult issues so you can move on and focus on building a friendship with your ex.  Contact the Sabra Law Group today to speak to an experienced New York Mediation Lawyer at (646) 472-7971.