How to Determine If Divorce is the Right Option During COVID-19


During COVID-19 At first, you were excited about Zoom happy hours and not having to always go to places and get to take a break from the hustle and bustle.  Unfortunately, the reality is that by now, you are sick of Zoom happy hours and your spouse is driving you crazy.  

Like many other New Yorkers under quarantine, you are contemplating divorce; however, it makes you wonder if the quarantine has driven you to divorce or if your marriage was already failing prior to COVID-19? 

There are some questions you can ask yourself and evaluate to determine if divorce is the right option during COVID-19.  Below is a list of questions to consider: 

1.    What are you really fighting/arguing about?  You have to ask yourself if your quarantine quarrels are a result of underlying issues that were pre-existing or if it is just the stress of being on lockdown for months with no sight of getting back to a “normal” lifestyle.  The pandemic can cause stress to even the healthiest relationships and marriages.  The stress of suddenly having to both work from home, homeschool the children and worry about losing jobs and finances can definitely take a toll and cause emotions to rise.

 
2.    Is it possible that once the pandemic goes away that your problems with your spouse will also subside? This is a difficult question to answer when there seems to be no end in sight, however; there are some ways to get more clarity on this.   One way is to determine if you were having lots of quarrels and fights prior to COVID-19; or did it all start with the stress of the pandemic? 

3.    Is the pandemic bringing out the worst in your mate?  Are you shocked and baffled by the way your mate is behaving? If you are noticing that the existing negative characteristics of your mate or being amplified during the pandemic; you may need to evaluate if this behavior will only get worse or will it go away once things start going back to normal.   You will need to follow your instincts on this one because only you know how your mate was prior to the pandemic and the changes you have noticed as of recently. 

4.    Do you feel unsafe or threatened? If you now feel worried for your safety or that of your children, you do need to take this feeling seriously.  If your spouse has or may have the tendency to become physically or emotionally abusive – it may be time to consider getting out of the marriage. Even though it is always scary to leave an abusive relationship, you have to remind yourself that the behavior may only get worse.  
Seek professional help if you are feeling like you are in an unsafe situation. 

The most important element about determining if divorce is the right option during COVID-19 is to determine if the issues/problems you are having in your marriage are more permanent or temporary issues caused by a stressful environment. 

If you need to get more information about divorcing during COVID-19, contact Sabra Law Group for a complimentary consultation at (646) 472-7971 or to find out how to avoid the top 3 costliest mistakes that smart people make in divorce.

 

 

 

 

  
 


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