How to Deal with Anger and Emotions During Divorce in New York


 

Getting divorced is one of the most stressful life events.  It can trigger deep emotions and bring anger out.  The anger can arise from painful experiences with your soon-to-be-ex or even feeling threatened by your spouse.  Some couples opt for staying in an unhealthy relationship longer than they should.  This is because they would rather be in a bad relationship than no relationship.  As a result, it can delay the process of taking the steps to separate and divorce.  However, there comes a time when one or both spouses have had enough; but by that time, anger is at an all-time high. It is essential to know how to deal with anger and emotions during divorce in New York. 

 

How to Cope with Your Anger and Emotions During Divorce

 

Get it Out of Your System

 

It is important not to keep anger bottled up.  You must find a way to release your anger in a healthy and constructive way.  One way to do this is to work through your anger by journaling or writing a letter that you don’t send or mail.  Writing your feelings down on paper will allow you to release them and feel less weighed down. 

 

Another useful method to get it out of your system is to develop a support system that can help.  Having people in your life whom you can talk it out with will help you feel better; because again you are releasing your emotions instead of keeping them bottled up.

 

Seek Professional Help

 

Sometimes your friends and family may not be able to support you in the way that you need it.  In that situation, it is helpful to seek professional help such as a therapist who helps people with anger management.

 

Take Accountability for Your Part in the Breakup

 

If you also played a part (whether it was minor or major) in the breaking of your marriage, it is important to take accountability for your part.  This will help you to not place the entire blame on your spouse and it may help you to manage your emotions. 

 

Forgiveness is Hard Sometimes But Essential to Moving On

 

Part of the divorce process is to heal after divorce and determine if you are ready to move on and start a new relationship.  If you truly want to move on, it is critical to forgive, otherwise you may stay in the same angry space.

 

Staying Calm is Key

 

When things get heated, it can be difficult to stay calm, but staying calm will help you de-escalate the anger.  Try to take a walk, do some deep breathing, or try yoga or meditation. 

 

Need Assistance with Divorce in New York?

 

Call Sabra Law Group today at (646) 472-7971 and determine if divorce mediation can help you get divorced sooner than dishing it out in court, so you can move on to starting fresh. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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